I love a massage. It is probably my favorite way to relax. I might only get one every year or two, but when I know I am going to have a massage, I plan my day around it, I long for it. I enter a room with a body that is humming with tension, and worries….. and over the course of the next hour….. I morph into something that resembles Jell-O in a skin suit. My brain is calm. Thoughts no longer flit through my mind competing for my attention. My body is calm. My muscles are smooth and relaxed.
I am ready to take on the world……. or at least the rest of the day.
Spending time with the Lord should be like that. I should long for it, anticipate it, plan for it. In Refresh: A Woman Who Kneels before God Can Stand Before Anyone . I was encouraged to make a time and a place to meet with my Creator each morning. Talk with Him. To search the Scriptures for His words to me. In the last few weeks I have acted on this advice, and the difference in my days is tangible. There is a calm-ness, a serenity, a focus that emanates from those quiet moments that carries me through the day.
Remember the giddiness of new love? Full of hope and promise for the future? Remember standing starry-eyed at the alter, knowing how wonderful and amazing your married life will be, so sure that this feeling will last forever????
Fast forward a few years and we are neck deep in reality. Your husband left the seat up last night and you fell in, and we wont even talk about his laundry on the floor. Your toddler has an ear ache and a 101 degree fever, you have been up 6 times in the night, the baby has barfed on you three times, and today just happens to be your anniversary. You feel messy, smelly, exhausted, and as for frisky….isn’t that the name of the cat? Certainly not the way you are feeling these days.
In her book Rekindle: Red Hot is So Cool. Lorrie Flem shares some very practical advice to help you work on Romance and Intimacy in your marriage. I have been working on implementing her advice on making our room a place of beauty and rest. It has been fun to work on fanning the flame in my marriage.
The potter’s hands need to apply constant and steady pressure to turn a lump of clay into a beautiful vase. My home needs that same steady attention each day, without it, it easily spins out of control.
I am so not organized. I look around me right now and I would call my house a pit. There is clutter on counters, hangers in the living room waiting for laundry, there is a dog kennel in the laundry room, and a pile next to the computer screen a foot high that I haven’t looked through in over a year.
Gross sounding isn’t it? Having a home that is undone, is un-nerving to me. I don’t feel peaceful when my house is messy.
Refine: From Homekeeping 101 to Graduating With Honors, was exactly the encouragement I needed. As I read, I didn’t feel berated or unable to measure up, instead I felt that with a few small tweaks here and there, I could indeed run a much more efficient home.
I love the ocean. The sound of it soothes me. The ebb and flow of the tide, the crashing of the waves, the feel of the spray, the smell of the salt in the air. Ahhhh…. I am relaxing at the thought of it.
The ocean can also be tempestuous. The waves can be sneaky and more forceful than they look. They say not to turn your back on a wave….. and the same can be said for a room full of children.
There are days, when the sound of my children in the other room, laughing and playing and enjoying each other is such a joy. Then there are days when I hear yelling, hitting, back biting, arguing….. all these things I never raised them to do. I feel frustrated and confused, unsure of how to guide them back to that calm place we were at just days ago.
Lorrie wrote a little book; What to Do when Abel is Raising Cain, and it contains much advice on the subject of rejuvenating the focus of your family. I was reminded that there is a difference between raising and training children. It was a review of many of the things I know I am supposed to do, but these are the very things I become relaxed in, and when I do, the tide and tempo of my home turns. I was gently reminded to be consistent with my children every moment of each day, and the reward will be a calmer, more peaceful home.
Ahhhhhh……….isn’t crawling into bed after a long day, just the best feeling in the world?
Looking back at all the pictures above, I feel rested. In the same way, reading these books have been like a spa day for my soul. Rest is so much more than massages, lingering warm baths, or a great night of uninterrupted sleep.
True rest isn’t found until I focus on Jesus. In all the hustle and bustle of the day I can lose that focus. I need to remember to count my blessings, and use the tools that God has given me to serve Him in the midst of the strife in life. Rest: Give it Up and Get it All helped me to address the priorities my life should have vs. the ones that tend to creep up and overrun it.
I am so grateful to Lorrie Flem and her team at Eternal Encouragement Magazine for letting me review this amazing collection they call The 5 R’s for Godly Womanhood. I truly felt God speaking to me through your words, and encouraging me to serve Him as a wife and mother each day.
I hope you will take the time to visit Lorrie’s site. I am sure you will find a spa day for your own soul in the many books, CD’s and MP3’s that are available.
As a part of The Gabby Mom’s program, I was given a copy of The 5R’s for Godly Womanhood free of charge for the purpose of this review. No other compensation has been received. All of the above opinions are my own.
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