Thoughts from a veteran’s wife

Today on that little social media website that we call Facebook, a picture was posted and a tidbit of an article was shared. 

The writer of the article, a Bill McClellan from the St. Louis Dispatch, proposed that the government cut costs by ending the policy of funerals with honors for Veterans.

McClellan agrees there are large areas to cut governmental spending, he feels that the small cost saving areas should be addressed as well.

His article quotes possible cost figures for what the government might pay to the veterans organizations who help staff the funerals for our veterans.  In doing the math, I can see where his point takes on a certain level of validity.  From a purely mathematical perspective I could agree with him; and had his article remained devoid of his personal opinion, I may have backed his cause.

His suggestion that “most veterans didn’t do anything heroic anyway…..”, is where my opinion of his argument began to wane, if not screech to an abrupt halt.  I find the day in and day out donning of a uniform to put yourself in the path of harm, very heroic. He finishes his article by giving all veterans a call to action.  He asks them to set aside their entitlement to a funeral with honors as a sacrifice for the country they loved enough to serve.

I do not like these last two statements from the author. Our government entered into a contract with each of the men and women who have served our country. In exchange for their service, our government has promised to help them attend college, provide for their medical needs, and when they die, their family can request a funeral with honors.  Out of the three contractual promises, or entitlements, that I listed above; the only one that I know the government consistently meets its obligation on is funerals.  To do as Mr. McClellan suggests would not be a grand gesture of sacrifice for a veteran, it would be a slap in the face, and yet another entitlement denied.

While I am the first person to look for a way to save a dollar, please do not suggest cutting costs by taking the last exhibition of thanks away from our veterans. They gave their sweat, tears, time, and in some cases their blood, for this country. A flag, a few shots fired, and a bugle, don’t seem to cost too much when weighed against a life.

To read McClellan’s original article:

To read an article about McClellan’s article:

What do you think?  Is cutting funeral honors for a veteran a wise cost cutting choice? 


vinegar, schminegar

I will admit, I was skeptic.

I have just converted to the “clean your house with vinegar” bandwagon.

Not because I have kids with allergies.  Not because I am overly chemical conscious.

……but because I am a cheap-skate , I mean frugal, and it really worked!

The new house contains a bathtub large enough to lose a child in.  They jokingly refer to it as the swimming pool. 

This tub, while ultimately enjoyable to soak in (and yes, you can be jealous of me…),  takes a month of Sundays to clean and about a can of scrubbing bubbles at a time. 

I had read somewhere on facebook that vinegar was tough on soap scum.  Having nothing to lose except more money on Scrubbing Bubbles, I tossed some vinegar into a quart jar with some of the discarded orange peels which resulted from Jeremiah’s afternoon snack.

I just, moments ago, sprayed the tub with my vinegar and let it set for about 5 minutes.  I came back with my sponge and did a quick swipe with the scrubby side…. and all that soap scum was GONE!!!!  I mean gone, gone.

So, this cheap-skate, I mean frugal mom has been converted.

For more information on how to make this yourself….  visit:

Try it.  If it works for you, I will save you a seat on the bandwagon :)


Doesn’t this look fun??

Hunter and I just found out today that we will be reviewing:

Great Empires  by Homeschool in the Woods.

We can’t wait to explore these Great Empires!

Ancient Egypt
Ancient Greece
Ancient Rome
Ancient China
Arab-Muslim Empire
Mongolian Empire
Viking Empire
Spanish Empire
French Empire
English Empire
German Empire
Japanese Empire
Russian Empire
The United States of America

Check back often to see some of our projects and find out how much fun we had!  Final review on this product will post between April 29, 2013 and May 6, 2013



B is for ….be…..


My dearest children,

Today I would like to share with you a state of being word that when partnered with the right verb can challenge you to be growing and be motivated to be more, than the person you are today.

… faithful.  To your God first, then to your spouse and family & lastly to your job.

….. be compassionate.  Everywhere you look people are hurting.  Never be to busy to listen and show you care.

… quick to listen.  You were created with two ears.  Listen first and listen more than you speak.

… slow to speak.  Ephesians 4 reminds us to have grace filled speech.  Harsh words can and will fly from your mouth without thought.  Cultivating grace filled speech takes time and effort.  Putting it in practice will change relationships for the better.

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love, mom


Softly and Tenderly

This past Sunday I was reminded of a song.  A song I love but forget that I love until I hear it.

It was written by Will Thompson in 1880 and the words speak straight to my heart.


Softly and tenderly Jesus is calling,
Calling for you and for me;
See, on the portals He’s waiting and watching,
Watching for you and for me.

Chorus: Come home, come home,
You who are weary, come home;
Earnestly, tenderly, Jesus is calling,
Calling, O sinner, come home!

Why should we tarry when Jesus is pleading,
Pleading for you and for me?
Why should we linger and heed not His mercies,
Mercies for you and for me?


Time is now fleeting, the moments are passing,
Passing from you and from me;
Shadows are gathering, deathbeds are coming,
Coming for you and for me.


O for the wonderful love He has promised,
Promised for you and for me!
Though we have sinned, He has mercy and pardon,
Pardon for you and for me.



In my youth, I lived a life that was so apart from what God wanted for me.  I would profess Christ with my mouth but by all appearances I would be the last person you thought would have grown up going to church.  When God allowed my life to reach a point of crisis I realized that He wanted all of my heart and not just the part that showed up to church on Easter and Christmas; I was broken before Him.  The hurt that I must have caused Him by my choices made me weep.  All during that time of my life, He was watching and waiting for me to come home.

This song is such an encouragement  to my heart. The fact of the matter is, I am still a sinner.  A saved sinner, but a sinner none-the-less.  I do not have everything figured out.  I still fall on my face. I mess up far more than I succeed. This song reminds me that Jesus is still standing, watching and waiting for me to come to Him each and every day, not just when my life is in crisis. He wants me to set aside all the things that I try to do on my own. He is waiting for me to grow weary of carrying all my burdens alone. 

His forgiveness is there…. always there….  all I need to do is come home.


A is for ……… Acceptance

My dear children,

My most fervent mom-prayer for you all is that you accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior.  From this starting point, learning to accept will help you to  grow in your relationships with others.

…….accept that the people around you are not perfect. It is likely that the people you meet will leave little scars across your soul, but every scar will carry with it a story and a lesson you have learned. Love them anyway, and be quick to forgive.

…….accept help.  Never be to proud to ask for  or receive help.

……. accept change.  Learning to “roll with the punches” is a talent I hope you will all  strive to cultivate.  We all make plans but plans can, and will, change.  A smiling face and the heart of a servant will help you weather the changes that life will bring your way.

……. accept love.  It will come in many forms, a hand held, a hug given, a tissue offered, a dirty wet kiss, tears shared, a meal made, a slow smile from across the room.  Cherish those moments. They are fleeting.

…….accept forgiveness. When your time comes and you behave less than perfectly toward those you love and they forgive you for your imperfections, accept it and remember to forgive yourself too.

…….accept “the new guy”.  Always look for the new person in the room.  Say hello. Be friendly.  At one time in your life you were “the new guy”; you were worth meeting, and they are too.  You never know, a life long friend might just be had in “the new guy”.

all my love,



A Legacy of Letters

I have seen the trend toward alphabet themed posts and I have decided to throw my hat into the fray….

My personal posts will be geared toward life lessons I want to share with my growing children. Feel free to link up, grab a button and add your wandering thoughts to mine on Tuesdays.

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